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The first few dates with a new lady-friend are make-or-break occasions. If your lady-friend finds you off-putting at this stage, she’s likely to break things off before they ever get started. The problem is, you’re a bit nervous. You know you’re being evaluated and even some of the things you might be doing in the hope of impressing might fall flat. Singles-Ottawa brings you some common pitfalls that you should avoid according to

#1 You talk about yourself too much

Maybe you like her a lot. You’re inclined to open up about yourself, or maybe you just want to impress her by showing what a unique specimen she could be hooking. So you start talking about yourself and maybe she even encourages you to do so, but your personal expose might fail to impress for one important reason. The lady would like to know that you’re actually interested in her thoughts, experiences or achievements. Constantly talking about yourself makes you appear self-absorbed, egotistical and selfish. You are not off to a good start. Instead of giving her an hour’s lesson on yourself, find out more about her. Keep turning the conversation back towards her feelings, experiences or opinions on current issues. She’ll be flattered by your interest and you’ll get to know her a lot more quickly.

#2 You don’t tell her enough about yourself

Yes, it’s one of those things. You have to find the right balance. You can’t expect her to be interested in you if you don’t share something of yourself. Supposing you tell her you’re an accountant and you had your last holiday in Thailand. That doesn’t really tell her anything about you. It’s a colourless piece of information. Add a bit of detail, share an experience or make a joke. It will engage her interest and tell her something about you, the person. Perhaps she’ll end up wanting to know more, but before she can ask, encourage her to talk about her profession or her last holiday.

#3 Your compliments make her feel uncomfortable

You’ve heard that paying a woman compliments earns you brownie points and there’s a lot to compliment this particular lady about. She’s got a great cleavage. You tell her so. Mistake! You think her butt looks great. You tell her so: Mistake! Remember, your new lady friend is a little bit shy with you. She’s not sure what to think of you and paying her direct compliments such as these will make her feel very uncomfortable indeed. The chances of getting another date with her are suddenly very, very small indeed. Stick to appropriate compliments that don’t have a sexual edge. Saying she has a lovely laugh or you like the way her eyes twinkle will make her feel good. She’ll feel more able to relax with you and you’ll start building trust. Whatever you do, don’t come across hot and heavy with those compliments!

#4 You’re too touchy-feely before she’s ready for it

Will she blame you if you find her so exciting that you want to get physical on the first date? Yes! She will! Most women feel as if they are being objectified rather than appreciated when men make their move too fast. Even trying to kiss her too soon might put your new lady friend to flight. It’s better to move too slowly than too fast. If your lady friend is already panting for you by the time you make your first move, there won’t be any problem, but if she’s not yet sure if she fancies you enough, you probably won’t see her again.

#5 You’re too possessive

Maybe you’re just eager to spend more time with her, but asking her out again too soon might make her worry that she’s giving you the impression that she’s your girlfriend before she’s sure that she wants to be. By all means ask her for another date, but keep a casual demeanour and make sure the date is for at least a week away. This is actually good for you too. Getting a bit of distance between dates will help you to keep your thinking clear and objective.

#6 You don’t make an effort

Some men believe that their dates must accept them ‘as they are’ and on a personal level this is certainly true, but if you extend this philosophy to include the fact that you don’t always wear fresh clothes or brush your hair, you’re making a big mistake. The message you’re conveying is that you don’t care about her impression of you. Fair enough. She thinks you’re a slob and this is probably the last time she’ll go out with you. Make a bit of an effort with your physical appearance, it shows respect.

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How Canadian churches are helping their communities cope with the wildfires



As wildfires burn across Canada, churches are finding ways to support their members and the broader community directly impacted by the crisis.

According to the Canadian Interagency Forest Fire Centre, as of June 13, there are 462 active fires across Canada – and 236 of them classified as out of control fires.

Whether it’s through phone calls or donations to community members, here’s how a few churches across Canada are handling active wildfires and the aftermath in their regions.

Westwood Hills, N.S.: St. Nicholas Anglican Church

In Nova Scotia, St. Nicholas Anglican Church and other churches in the area are collecting money for grocery cards to give to families impacted by the Tantallon wildfire. 

Right outside of Halifax, N.S., the Tantallon wildfire destroyed 151 homes. More than 16,000 people evacuated the area due to the fire.

The fire is now considered contained, but Tanya Moxley, the treasurer at St. Nicholas is organizing efforts to get grocery gift cards into the hands of impacted families.

As of June 12, four churches in the area – St. Nicholas, Parish of French Village, St Margaret of Scotland and St John the Evangelist – raised nearly $3,500. The money will be split for families’ groceries between five schools in the area impacted by the wildfire.

Moxley said she felt driven to raise this money after she heard the principal of her child’s school was using his own money to buy groceries for impacted families in their area.

“[For] most of those people who were evacuated, the power was off in their subdivision for three, four or five days,” she said. “Even though they went home and their house was still standing, the power was off and they lost all their groceries.”

Moxley said many people in the area are still “reeling” from the fires. She said the church has an important role to help community members during this time.

“We’re called to feed the hungry and clothe the naked and house the homeless and all that stuff, right? So this is it. This is like where the rubber hits the road.”

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Is it ever OK to steal from a grocery store?



Mythologized in the legend of Robin Hood and lyricized in Les Misérables, it’s a debate as old as time: is it ever permissible to steal food? And if so, under what conditions? Now, amid Canada’s affordability crisis, the dilemma has extended beyond theatrical debate and into grocery stores.

Although the idea that theft is wrong is both a legally enshrined and socially accepted norm, the price of groceries can also feel criminally high to some — industry data shows that grocery stores can lose between $2,000 and $5,000 a week on average from theft. According to Statistics Canada, most grocery item price increases surged by double digits between 2021 and 2022. To no one’s surprise, grocery store theft is reportedly on the rise as a result. And if recent coverage of the issue rings true, some Canadians don’t feel bad about shoplifting. But should they?

Kieran Oberman, an associate professor of philosophy at the London School of Economics and Political Science in the United Kingdom, coined the term “re-distributive theft” in his 2012 paper “Is Theft Wrong?” In simplest terms, redistributive theft is based on the idea that people with too little could ethically take from those who have too much.

“Everybody, when they think about it, accepts that theft is sometimes permissible if you make the case extreme enough,” Oberman tells me over Zoom. “The question is, when exactly is it permissible?”

Almost no one, Oberman argues, believes the current distribution of wealth across the world is just. We have an inkling that theft is bad, but that inequality is too. As more and more Canadians feel the pinch of inflation, grocery store heirs accumulate riches — Loblaw chair and president Galen Weston, for instance, received a 55 percent boost in compensation in 2022, taking in around $8.4 million for the year. Should someone struggling with rising prices feel guilty when they, say, “forget” to scan a bundle of zucchini?
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The homeless refugee crisis in Toronto illustrates Canada’s broken promises



UPDATE 07/18/2023: A coalition of groups arranged a bus to relocate refugees to temporarily stay at a North York church on Monday evening, according to CBC, CP24 and Toronto Star reports.

Canadians live in a time of threadbare morality. Nowhere is this more obvious than in Toronto’s entertainment district, where partygoers delight in spending disposable income while skirting refugees sleeping on sidewalks. The growing pile of luggage at the downtown corner of Peter and Richmond streets resembles the lost baggage section at Pearson airport but is the broken-hearted terminus at the centre of a cruel city.

At the crux of a refugee funding war between the municipal and federal governments are those who have fled persecution for the promise of Canada’s protection. Until June 1, asylum seekers used to arrive at the airport and be sent to Toronto’s Streets to Homes Referral Assessment Centre at 129 Peter St. in search of shelter beds. Now, Toronto’s overcrowded shelter system is closed to these newcomers, so they sleep on the street.

New mayor Olivia Chow pushed the federal government Wednesday for at least $160 million to cope with the surge of refugees in the shelter system. She rightly highlights that refugees are a federal responsibility. In response, the department of Immigration, Refugees, and Citizenship Canada points to hundreds of millions in dollars already allocated to cities across Canada through the Interim Housing Assistance Program, while Ontario says it has given nearly $100 million to organizations that support refugees. But these efforts are simply not enough to deliver on Canada’s benevolent promise to the world’s most vulnerable.

The lack of federal generosity and finger-pointing by the city has orchestrated a moral crisis. It’s reminiscent of the crisis south of the border, where Texas governor Greg Abbott keeps bussing migrants to cities located in northern Democratic states. Without the necessary resources, information, and sometimes the language skills needed to navigate the bureaucratic mazes, those who fled turbulent homelands for Canada have become political pawns.

But Torontonians haven’t always been this callous.

In Ireland Park, at Lake Ontario’s edge, five statues of gaunt and grateful refugees gaze at their new home: Toronto circa 1847. These statues honour a time when Toronto, with a population of only 20,000 people, welcomed 38,500 famine-stricken migrants from Ireland. It paralleled the “Come From Away” event of 9/11 in Gander, N.L., where the population doubled overnight, and the people discovered there was indeed more than enough for all. It was a time when the city lived up to its moniker as “Toronto, The Good.”

Now, as a wealthy city of three million people, the city’s residents are tasked with supporting far fewer newcomers. Can we not recognize the absurdity in claiming scarcity?

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